Random Facebook Psychic gives me a message

This is some of a conversation that someone started with me out of the blue on Facebook Messenger back in July of this year. I just rediscovered it in my archives of “Crap I have written.” I copied and pasted it into Word for some reason, possibly to share it, but promptly forgot. So here it is, inserted where I believe appropriate, date-wise.

Ashley: Hello, my name is Ashley and I live in Oregon. I don’t know what your beliefs are but sometimes I can pass along messages from loved ones who have died. I can tell you with absolute certainty that your wife is okay. She told me to tell you “I never left” and I think she is trying to give you a hug. Please forgive me for the intrusion or if this causes more pain. I deeply hope this brings you some comfort in your grief. I’d encourage you to speak with someone who may be a medium (reputable) if you’d like some more help talking to her. I wish you peace, and I'm so sorry for your loss.

Me: I appreciate your reaching out to tell me this. You'll have to pardon my skepticism, I just am so stuck in this material world and have never had any kind of communication with deceased loved ones. I am either not sensitive enough or it is just not my path to be able to be shown these things. I really want to have that certainty, more than anything, that my wife's soul exists. That she is more than just a memory, but that her consciousness and essence is intact somewhere. She suffered with MS for years and I wished that she could be free of the prison of her body many times. But when she died I never got the impression that her spirit was here or that she was ok. I just felt that her life on earth had ended and I realized for the first time that I was going to miss her terribly. It's ok that I feel grief. I welcome it, it's all I have. I would like to know how you know what you know about the afterlife and my wife in particular. What can you tell me that would prove beyond a shadow of a doubt to my troubled mind that she is ok? Can she speak to you or tell you something specific that would convince me that it is her? I recently contacted a psychic who told me lots of nice stuff, kind of like what you said, but it was all very general and nothing uniquely of my wife's personality. The psychic was very nice and didn't charge me anything. I just feel that maybe I'm meant to be in the dark, as some karmic path I have to trod. I dunno, but I'm longing to be convinced.

27 July 18:47

Ashley: I will think hard about what you said and see if I’ll be able to pass along something concrete. That’s a completely rational and fair point of view. If I hadn’t had so many unexplainable events happen to me I wouldn’t believe either. I’m a corporate lawyer, of all things, and very analytical - not the kind of person you’d expect to spout psychic nonsense.

Ashley: I was able to connect with her today. She’s so kind and caring. She kept trying to show me something with her hands. At one point she showed me how she could hold my hand, intertwining our fingers. She made another gesture with her hands I couldn’t quite make out, like she was pointing to a ring on her ring finger. She also said very clearly, “I’m only a whisper away.” I know this is nonspecific and I’m very sorry about that. I wish I was better at this. In fact, I told your wife that and how worried I was about sending you bad information and she told me “oh honey you wont get it wrong.” She was so, so kind. And I really don’t think she’s left your side.

Ashley: What strikes me most about my encounter with her is the depth and force of her love and concern for others. She strikes me as the kind of person who can make you feel at ease and accepted and at home wherever you are, even if you haven’t known each other long. Someone who hugs and means it. Someone who is selfless with a gentle and easy sense of humor. If I’m off base please tell me. I don’t want to cause you any more pain.

Me: I don't disbelieve that you (or the other psychic) are having a real experience. With the one that does it for a living, I admit I had some suspicions beforehand because, well, it is too easy to find stuff out on Facebook and put together a little presentation where "specific" information given by the psychic is just public information anyway. I tend to rule out anything that is not so personal that it didn't find its way to the public realm. There are specific questions I could ask that would cement it for me if I got the right answer. I'm not sure why or how she would connect with you, but then I don't know how the whole other side works or if there even is another side. I'm very much a believe it when I see it type. But on the other hand I read testimonials and get all weepy and hope that they are true, because I just can't bear this reality if this is all there is. I appreciate what you are doing, however or why ever you are doing it.

Ashley: There is a lawyer I know who just lost his wife. He is deeply grieving. His wife happened to be a psychic. I never met her. But the husband has a wealth of knowledge of the other side. He’s much more informed than I am. If you’d like to email with him I can reach out to him to see if he’s like to connect.

Me: The person I knew gained a depth of character during her illness, but when we met she was very much a here and now, live for fun and what you can get out of life type of person. I don't really know if we inhabit these forms and take on various roles while we live and there is a larger personality behind it. I'm very interested in the esoteric, she was a "you live, you die and then who knows" type of gal. She hated all this afterlife talk. I will talk to anyone about this, it's kind of an obsession at this point. And I really would like to know, not just have a belief.

Ashley: I understand that. Knowing and believing are very different. I’ll reach out to him and see what he says. I’ve been meaning to talk to him anyways so this is perfect.

Me: Thank you. I will try to be open minded, but at the same time retain my standard of proof to be convinced. It would mean so much to me, if I only knew she was ok. How did you come to be aware of me and my wife? Was it a post that I commented on the other day?

Ashley: That’s fair. This might not help, but I’ve found the other side often tries to communicate through quite frankly explainable coincidences. Little things that make you say “oh huh, that’s weird timing” but that you can find a rational explanation for. If you keep an open mind and look for those little things, more things might start appearing. It’s tough though bc it feels like the belief vs knowing problem. So skip this if it doesn’t work for you if course. Yes, I saw some response you posted to something on FB. I don’t even remember what it was. I was reading the posts and as I read yours I immediately heard your wife trying to get my attention to send you a message to let you know she’s okay. I think I was drinking a cup of coffee just trying to wake up and then it hit me. I really struggled with the decision to contact you bc I’ve only ever passed on messages to people I know. But in the off chance this would help you I figured it wasn’t my place to hold it back. Definitely not something I sought out; just the messenger sort of thing.